Thursday, February 19, 2009

Clarification of my earlier post - which appears to have pressed some buttons

My original missive, which sparked so much righteous anger among female Tumblrs:

“Girls are incredibly annoying this way - give you the vibe all night, accept your drinks, flirt, then come last call, she and her friends all bounce together in what seems like 10 seconds. And so, after this happened to me a few times, I too no longer buy girls drinks. Do you hear that women? Stop complaining that men are not nice to you - because it’s your own fault. Nice guys finish last it seems.”

I should have been more clear. I’m not referring to the girl you meet at happy hour, buy a drink or two, and exchange numbers. There is nothing wrong with that.

What I am referring to is the girl that is slamming back jäger shots on your tab for two hours and giving all the signs that she DOES want to continue the night later. Don’t pretend you haven’t all been there, and don’t pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about - it’s called using guys for drinks, and I bet you’ve done it yourself at some point in your life.

See the reblog below, as joshuawolf put it better than I could.

Do you think that guys should just buy the girl drinks then avoid speaking to her the rest of the night? I can treat a girl with all the respect in the world, but I’d expect at the very least a “It was nice meeting you but I have to go” at the end of the evening. Now, I’m not saying that flirting with a girl and buying her drinks means she is obligated to come back to my place or even give me her number, but I’m here to have a good time and enjoy myself too; not to be taken advantage of because I’m trying to be nice.

I think while the message he sent was misspoken, the basis of it is clear: What good is it to be the nice guy when you receive the cold shoulder in return?

via (joshuawoulf)

Reblogged via golden-and-delicious

Notes:

  1. kristyagogo reblogged this from missworld
  2. mintygreen reblogged this from thoseareturkeys and added:
    Man, these guys just keep missing the point. What’s “nice” about buying a girl drinks so that she’ll hook up with you?...
  3. freddahead reblogged this from siddman
  4. thoseareturkeys reblogged this from siddman
  5. siddman reblogged this from billda
  6. thoseareturkeys reblogged this from reallykatie and added:
    Word. A nice guy doesn’t have to buy me drinks. He just has to not laugh too hard when I nearly kill someone while...
  7. reallykatie reblogged this from mintygreen and added:
    emphasis added…so spot on, thank you.
  8. tactshack reblogged this from billda and added:
    Wow, that clears up a lot. Hon, if you’re giving a stranger open access to your bar tab, you’re not a nice guy or a...
  9. billda reblogged this from golden-and-delicious and added:
    My original missive, which sparked so much righteous anger among female Tumblrs:...should...
  10. lfar reblogged this from tactshack
  11. klutztastrophe reblogged this from ryandoescomedy
  12. ryandoescomedy reblogged this from lizlemon
  13. golden-and-delicious reblogged this from icanseenewyorkcityfrommyhouse
  14. shorterexcerpts reblogged this from mintygreen and added:
    Wow…I see I’ve been taken wildly out of context here. My issue isn’t the “no getting lucky” it’s that I was asked to buy...
  15. mintygreen reblogged this from beevee and added:
    Jesus Christ. People really still think like this? Tumblr is not making me feel good about the world tonight. Really,...
  16. singe reblogged this from iambal and added:
    Well, you aren’t exactly going to meet gentlemen in the bar.. So I guess that’s the case.
  17. beevee reblogged this from iambal and added:
    Gentlemen: If you like a girl, buy her a drink. If you like her after the drink, ask her on a date. If you like her...
  18. iambal reblogged this from billda and added:
    so if a guy buys me drink I am required to give him head in the parking lot? Is this a new rule?
  19. billda reblogged this from shorterexcerpts and added:
    Ah yes, you should never have broken your rule. Girls are incredibly annoying this way - give you
  20. shorterexcerpts posted this